Time Is The Ultimate Hoax

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Most of us have been brought up on the idea of finding something outside ourselves that will make us happy. It’s a hoax, of course.

This is something foisted on us by the Church and other major religions, wanting to usurp natural values and substitute their own particular cuckoo’s egg instead. By far the worst hoax they peddle is that happiness is some other time, some remote future, an afterlife, some other dimension. We think we have been stuck with this one far too long and it is now difficult to shake off.

It has become what we call in Supernoetics™ a cultural implant. We grow up constantly brainwashed to the belief that some time hence we will get what we desire. As a child, we yearn only to grow up. We go through school wishing for it to end and looking forward to freedom. In our teens we want to be men and women, who can marry, have kids and settle down. But life is never quite as we pictured it and we end up subscribing to the idea that we’ll feel great on weekends and holidays. Eventually, when the burden of work and living seems cemented in place, we start to dream that all will be roses and delight when we retire.

But when it isn’t, what is left? Time has all but run out before we discover for ourselves the fraud that the future is no place. When we reach it we have only NOW, which we had all along –but failed to notice or cherish, as it fleeted by.

Regard the warning words of Oliver Wendell Holmes “Too many people die with their music still in them. Why is it so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time has run out.” Continue reading →

Is This The Age Of Anxiety? – part 3

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The holiday season overtook us… but I was about to deliver on a promise of what can you DO about anxiety. It seems quite a few people are eagerly awaiting the answer. I’m not surprised this piece struck a chord with so many: I believe it is indeed the Age Of Anxiety. It’s everywhere: economics, politics, religion, environment, gender issues, career… and now, of course, this year particularly: end of the world!! It would be pathological NOT to feel somewhat apprehensive.

As I showed with part 2 of this article series (Masserman’s Cats), anxiety is really uncertainty and contra-survival shocks that destabilize us and leads to tension. If you always know where you are going to live; that you will always have a home and food; that your job is secure; your God is not going to let you down; and your government is working to keep you safe; then you probably won’t feel insecure and will never know real anxiety.

However, there is still the physiological condition of anxiety: tension, adrenalin or (later) cortisol, leading to agitation and restlessness. You can get that from eating the wrong foods, as I found out in the 1980s. Nutritional deficiency, such as is rampant today in the Western world, with it’s manufactured junk, will lead to depletion of positive neurotransmitters, such as serotonin and dopamine. You will certainly FEEL anxious, till that is corrected.

Electronics also do a lot to over-agitate the nervous system and keep us in high beta (brainwaves of 25 Hertz or more).

What can we do? Continue reading →

Creatively Dealing With Problems

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There is an extremely powerful approach to life’s problems, which is to sit with the individual and have them think-up (invent, imagine, create) “a similar kind of problem” to the one which is bothering them. Have him or her come up with other trouble variants that are at least as complex and major as the one that’s bugging them.

It is capable of reducing the person’s pain and distress enormously. Yet it does not require an enormous insight into the workings of the mind to use effectively.

We are harnessing the person’s creative energy and not delving into negative areas of experience in the way that, say, regression therapy does. As a positive gain rather than a negative gain procedure which cannot easily be overrun, it can be used on a very wide variety of people and problems.

This makes it an ideal tool for what we jokingly call the car qualified practitioner (a “have a go” helper, not a professional; you know, the kind of conversation you could have with someone while driving along in a car).

When directed towards an individual’s fixed condition, (divorce, cancer, broken leg, etc), or even other long-term problems that the individual wants to get rid of, the person goes very thoroughly and immediately into session. He or she has an intense interest in getting rid of the problem and is almost invariably willing to talk to the practitioner/counselor.

One reason for this willingness, is that the individual does not have to dig out or reveal any damaging truths about themselves. Another reason this procedure is peculiarly suitable to car qualified work.

Here we are exercising a person’s creative ability to mock up or create mental structures, which can be done for ever, rather than trying to eliminate negative emotional energy from unpleasant memory. So it cannot easily be overdone, as some techniques can.

It enables the spiritual being or mental composite to rise above the mass of negative energy without viewing it in detail.  It simply moves the crushing weight of disempowering burden off the case.

How Is It Done? Continue reading →

What Is Private Intelligence And Why Is It Not Intelligent?

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Private intelligence

In the case of a neurotic failure in life, a person’s reasoning may be ‘intelligent’ within his own frame of reference, but is nevertheless socially insane. The person thinks it all adds up but the rest of us don’t see the deeper context and to us, it looks nuts.

For example, a thief said: “The young man had plenty of money and I had none; therefore I took it.” Since this criminal does not think himself capable of acquiring money in the normal manner, in the socially useful way, there is actually nothing left for him but robbery. So the criminal approaches his goal through what seems to him to be an ‘intelligent’ argument; however his reason is based on private intelligence, which does not include social interest or responsibility.

A man may be solidly married but insists of endless destructive affairs, with women who have nothing to offer his career or children. He is destroying the good part of his life, being bent on something which is very foolish. In private intelligence, it’s the right thing to do. But once the wider context is added, the actions no longer make sense.

Reasoning which has general validity is broad intelligence, which is connected with a social interest and context. Whereas isolated private intelligence may seem ‘clever’ to the individual concerned but if it conflicts with social needs it is of little value.

Neurotics, psychotics, criminals, alcoholics, vandals, prostitutes, drug addicts, perverts, etc are lacking in social interest. They approach the problems of occupation, friendships and sex without the confidence that they can be solved by cooperation. Their interest stops short at their own person – their idea of success in life is self-centered, and their triumphs have meaning only to themselves. Continue reading →

The Learning Of Love

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You know I like to write of love, not as some arrogant and cocksure teacher, but as someone who has learned the hard way just how precious and healing this blessing truly is.

OK, this is only a lightweight piece… or is it?

I watched my youngest son shopping for a gift for someone special to him. He spent days trying to make up his mind. Being a man, his idea was that the bigger or more amazing the gift, the more intense the gesture of love. Even if it was not a question of finding the most costly gift, he still wanted something that would impress her…

Ladies: tell him!

It isn’t how big the gift, or even what the gift: it’s the gifting of the gift that wins a woman. I remember a lecture last year by John Gray (Mars and Venus guy) in which he explained, for those that didn’t get it, that giving 2 dozen roses didn’t get you any more points than giving just one rose, sweetly meant.

In fact giving just one rose 24 times was the best option, because it counted as 24 gifts; a bunch counted as only one!

But what can I tell him? I’ve been in the exact same place many times. One sweetheart (between wives) expressed a desire to play the saxophone—so I bought her one.

She never played it, to my knowledge. But when I sang her a love song, it softened her more than a king’s ransome would do!

Courage, Love and Integrity

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What Are The Elements Of A Good Life?

A few years ago I had to attend a road traffic accident. It was a dark and dirty November night; two young women had been struck by a taxi and were lying unconscious in the road. Bystanders hung around, shocked, scared, uncertain what to do.

The dismal rain made this a scene of horror and chill. It was unnerving.

Kneeling on the road to help, I was soon drenched with cold rain and shivering until my teeth rattled. Warm sticky blood soaked into my clothes, as I worked on the most critical of the two victims, anxiously awaiting the ambulance. In the poor visibility, my own safety was not assured as unheeding traffic thundered past mere inches away.  I was constantly splashed with icy cold rainwater.

Somehow a brush with death, not necessarily one’s own, is a moment for considering the worth of what one is doing. Fate herself seemed to step out of the darkness and speak. It was a simple clear message which only a fool could fail to grasp:

How we waste our fragmentary and precious lives.

True, I have seen people die many times on the hospital wards. But in a sense that which we see on the wards is a different kind of death to the one which hovered close by in the dismal rain that night. Somehow this was more immediate; – challenging us, as it did right there on the street, mixed up with our ordinary everyday lives. The finger of doom pointed accusatively at two young women. But it pointed at me too…

For there is always that universal reproachful question importuning in all such moments: am I doing the best I can with every moment of this fragile life–truly?

Let us firm these suspicions of inadequacy into neatly phrased, if accusative, questions:

Have we done the best we can with others? (our family, friends, neighbors and strangers) Is there anything that should, at the last, be UN-done? Many of us would like to be remembered fondly for our best achievement; but what if we were remembered solely for our worst act in life—what impression would we leave behind on history?

Are we up to date with our duties? Or have we been shirking those things we KNOW we must do, putting them off for some other more comfortable time that would suit ourselves and not those around us?

Perhaps we can put it all into the one question, most awful of all:

If we knew our last moments were at hand, is there anything we would wish to change?

I know I thought about it again and again in the ensuing days. Continue reading →