Help me out on some original enquiries folks
I would like to say help with research but, with you guys, I know you would only think of medical science research. This is more sociology research, concerning communication difficulties we all have.
Communication is central to our Being. Elsewhere I have written that we only really “exist” to the degree that we communicate. If we didn’t communicate (connect) with anyone or anything, how could we be said to be there? Who would know!
I’ve written a lot about this theme, which is central to wellness and mind health. I came up with the idea of a “model answer”, meaning a good (intelligent) pre-patterned way of responding in certain critical situations.
OK, that blows spontaneity out of the window. But communication is important and, just as you wouldn’t go rock climbing without practicing the basic moves, why would we launch ourselves into relationships without rehearsing some of the basic exchanges?
You can be spontaneous about what you want to say, maybe, but it would be better to be practiced at getting the words out expertly.
What I want from you all is some feedback, as follows:
What are the commonest communication problems you encounter? (Misunderstanding? Bad temper? Irrationality? People don’t really listen? etc.)
What set ways of responding to a tricky situation have you found really work well for you—if any? (such as, “I don’t want that kind of communication from [a spouse] [friend] [lover],” or “Please hold the conversation until you feel calmer about this issue…” and so forth)
I like to use one when people are not clear: notice that if you ask people to repeat, they do so in the exactly the same way, same inaudible voice etc.! I have learned to say, “I didn’t get that; would you please repeat what you said but choose slightly different words, so that I may understand…”
If you have favorite phrases or responses to any situation that the rest of us might meet, please share it with me and I promise you I will make good use of it in my communication workshop!
Please leave a reply below! It will help thousands of people…